Fatherhood 101

Sunday, 6/18/2017

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Share and discuss any or all of the following:  

  • Share a favorite memory.
  • What are some joys that you are willing to share?
  • What are some burdens that you would be willing to share?
  • What was your father like growing up?
  • What makes a great father?
  • In what ways is God a great Father?
  • What from the notes stand out to you?
  • How could you affirm the goodness of God and let go of any negative perceptions of God?
  • Who is someone God might want you to impact in a positive way?

Sermon Notes and Scripture references:


The root of the crisis in this nation is fatherhood


Foundation of the nation is family.


Foundation of the family is the father.


If you want to destroy a nation, destroy the family.  If you want to destroy the family, destroy the father.


Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter.


Children’s eternal future hinges on what the father does during the raising of his children.


Ephesians 6


Fatherhood is learned:


From great fathers, and from The Father.




Ephesians 6:1-4


Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”


And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.






God placed responsibility on the shoulders of the fathers




Five traits of a great father, learned from The Father


1. Love like He loves


Never have to earn it


Psalm 103:13


As a father pities his children,
So the Lord pities those who fear Him.




Parable of the prodigal son – you cannot stop me from loving you




2. Be excited like God is excited


God is excited about His children


Let us make man in our image


Luke 15 – lost sheep – rejoice when found


Job 1:8


 Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered My servant Job, that there is none like him on the earth, a blameless and upright man, one who fears God and shuns evil?”




God bragged to satan about Job


Always sees the best in His children


The power of a father’s tongue will make or break their children’s lives


Heart of a child rises and falls on the tongue of a father




3. Dream like God dreams for your children


I know the plans I have for you…




4. Train like He trains


Training for reigning


2 pictures of the bad dad


Hard overbearing dad will break his children


Ephesians 6:4




Eli – another bad dad


1 Samuel


You knew the evil of your sons but you would not restrain them


Children need a father’s hand


Do not be afraid to correct your children


Not friend, but leader, life guide


Yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness


Correction balanced with compassion








Hebrews 12 – picture of a great father


God’s hand on my life.


He doesn’t punish, He corrects, trains for great life in the future.


My goal is not to be popular today, but to have a great life in the future.




Love them


Trian to reign


Engage with them, be present




Trains us 2 primary ways


1. At heart level


Misery is the correction of God


Humble yourself, bow your head, say I’m sorry --> peace


2. Causes our plans to fail; my puny plans vs. His great plans


Psalm 33




5. Be there like He’s there


Hebrews 13


There’s nothing you can do to turn His heart from you


A father’s heart


Run --> he’ll chase you


Fall --> he’ll pick you up